today is the day.. i was baptized as one of jehovah's witnesses on march 25th 1989.disfellowshipped for admitted apostasy today, september 10th 2015.. what an amazing story we all share.
how did we get involved with this group and think this was the best way of life?.
i asked my wife to stay home from the meeting tonight and spend the evening with me.she is.... we celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary this past monday.. i must admit, i never saw any of this coming, but it couldn't have come sooner.i'm free of all the fake friendships.
Pat on the back to you both, well done. Hope you can enjoy your life now and put it all behind you. Men seem much better at that than us women...speaking for myself of course. My husband has not looked back once since we left 8 years ago. He was an elder and pioneer and very popular in speaking at assemblies etc. Now he cannot possibly understand how he was part of it all.
Enjoy your life and happy anniversary!
i was just wondering who else on here cleans for a living.
we all know the dubs' penchant for cleaning, so i was wondering if my wife and i were the lone cleaners on here.
we've cleaned together for 15+ years now.
Pioneered from school in the UK, started in banking but that was frowned upon so I started cleaning when I was 19. Have my own business, self employed and I am very picky as to what I take on. Have done all the shitty jobs in the past from stair washing (a killer), factory cleaning (worse) to home cleaning (never again) and now I have office cleaning and clinics.
I earn more than my husband who is a college teacher (he went to school after 25 years cleaning), I have time to take part in charity work, I have been home for my children every day when they were little. I have two houses and an apartment in the south of France. All of this has been possible largely due to my earnings from cleaning and ignoring Jw counsel not to buy property back when it was relatively affordable.
Do I regret staying with it? Yes and no, I wish I had woken up earlier from the JW dream and taken the education I dreamt of as a young girl, I wanted to teach history. Yet I have so many opportunities to learn now with internet being at my fingertips.
I too have great friendships with my customers, they want to keep me until I retire they tell me. I am treated by directors and staff with great kindness and respect. We can discuss anything from religion, politics and family life when we meet. They all know I left the Jw's as I made sure that they knew this as they had known me as a very upright Jw for so many years. They can see how happy I am with my life now and we received flowers, cards, chocolates etc when it is my birthday and when we had family tragedy.
Glad you are so happy with your wife...my husband is a dear and he comes with me once a week still, best worker I ever had.
Regards Chicken little
hello friends.
my fleshy sister is seriously getting to my nerves.
she's my only (and younger) sister, and as you know, is married to an uber-circuit overseer.
I found to start with that the more you mention depression, Jehovah understands and my spiritual relationship is between me and Jehovah and nobody else, people back off. Tell them if you need help you know where to go, for the time they should just leave you alone as the stress of dealing with people and calls is giving you a set health wise and that is not what you want.
soooo...i have recently been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, and am scared out of my mind.
in a weak moment, i called my parents and my mom answered.
i start crying as i tell her about my disease, and this woman says to me:.
When we are fragile and in need of love it is devastating to be rebuffed by those we hoped would reach out to us and understand. I hope you give yourself time to come to terms with your illness and get support from others that may have the same sickness. Take some time to do some enjoyable and good things for yourself and try to leave the rejection where it belongs...with your mother. Hugs and hope you get help to manage and live with your illness.
Love Chicken little
i've finally got round to joining the site (after over 2 years lurking!
i was born into jws, pioneered for 10 years (met my husband at pioneer school).
had health issues that saw me catapulted away from 'the centre of the cong' and wow what a different place that was!
Welcome Peony...lovely name.
I stopped eight years ago, literally could not make my legs move to get out of the car in the carpark at the kingdom hall...my husband was an elder at the time and he could see I was in a crisis. I told him that night I would never go back to a kh again. We left together and have not looked back since then.
Life has its ups and downs and we have suffered heartache and loss like everyone else living on this planet.
We deal with it and try to be decent, kind people to everyone we meet.
Your honesty with your family is refreshing, hopefully in time they will wake up too.
Love to you and your family ( I am ex-pat living in Scandanavia).
Chicken little
i hear a number of disfellowshiped are quickly reinstated in acertain circuit in japan.one disfellowshipped person who are obviously in worldly.
clothings, attended a meeting.whole congregation thought that person was not yet sincerely repented,but, announcement was made that the person was reinstated.branch office and circuit overseers are eager to bringdisfellowshiped back to the organization.local elders are not very pleased about it..
We had three japanese pioneer brothers stay at out home in the early 90's. None of them lived by themselves all still at home in late 20's. Did not know how to iron a shirt or do laundry. I did it once for them and then told them they had to take care of themselves. What was interesting was their information about reporting hours in Japan.
Remember at this time Japan was having peak after peak of publishers. They told me no one is irregular in their congregations as the elders just put down and hour or two for everyone, even if they had not put a report in.
They also spoke about pioneer princesses, girls who had parents drive them around the territory and who acted like royalty because they were pioneers. The three that stayed with us for 10 days did not contribute to anything and we did not mind as they were "poor" pioneers. That illusion was shattered on the final days when they went shopping for high end brands of everything and came home to show us what they had bought as well as shipped home. We were struggling at the time to make ends meet...left a bad taste in my mouth!
i hope everyone is having a good saturday.
i've visited this many times in the past month or so, joined yesterday and finally got the nerve to post!
needless to say, i'm super nervous, being new to this whole experience.
Welcome MarieK,
It is difficult and a little hard the first few times you log onto this site, the JW brainwashing is hard to shake off.
It gets easier and with time you will be posting and supporting others that have taken the same step after yourself.
All the best and enjoy your new life with your young children. Wish we had woken up when our children were so young. Still freedom after 34 years is still freedom and feels just great.
Love
Chicken little
close to 400 got baptized at the regional convention in stockholm attended by more than 50,000 witnesses from norway, sweden, denmark, iceland as well as greenland and faroe islands..
let's just say i sometimes don't know how to keep my trap shut.
i really need to learn to keep well enough alone when she attacks me.
keep in mind i never start the fights about the borg.
im so frustrated i could kill myself right now!!
im 15 and a couple weeks ago i confessed to my parents that i didn't want to be a jehovahs witness anymore and also that i was bisexual.
i had just gotten back from an eating disorder clinic and my parents decided to put me back in school (i was homeschooling before).
Write down your feelings, taking time to do so in a clear way not charged with emotion. Explain you love them but cannot continue to live a lie. While you live at home it will be very difficult for you but you can get support by asking child welfare to at least try to talk to your parents. Your doctor could also be involved in talking to your parents if you truly are self harming and contemplating suicide. Your sexuality is your own business, your parents will have to recognize that at some point, maybe not until you have left home. Try your best to get outside help, their are help lines for bi-sexuals, lesbians etc. Get help.
All the best
Chicken little
